Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. -1 Timothy 3:3-4
To what lengths do you go to make yourself feel beautiful? Make-up and curling irons? Following the latest fashion trends? A nip here, a tuck there, and a little Botox on the side? What definition of beauty are you chasing?
Our culture surrounds us with images of women edited to perfection and provides a pressure to somehow measure up. Is your nose crooked? We have a surgery to correct that! How about those creases in your forehead? A little Botox will straighten that out! Do your breasts not meet your standards? We can fix that too!
What if I reminded you that this is all chasing after the wind? I think, deep down, you know that already, but maybe you are caught in the mindset that if you could just fix that one last thing, then you’ll be beautiful. You might feel physically beautiful for a while, but that will fade as time takes its toll on our bodies.
God has a promise of an unfading beauty, one that will radiate from you even after the sagging skin and gray hair set in. It is a beauty you build instead of chase. One that will grow with you as you age. God give us his own formula to achieve what you are truly looking for.
1 Timothy 3 talks of the beauty God finds worthy, that which comes from a “quiet and gentle spirit.” It isn’t in perfecting your skin or mouth or hair, but in the refining of your spirit.
I have met women who have emanated this type of beauty before. It always seems difficult to pinpoint exactly what it is that makes them stand above the rest. It is not a specific, tangible thing that sticks out. It is more the way they move, talk, and treat others. It is not a feature, but the fruit that is born of such spirit that we see. It is not in fine clothing , but the virtues that she chooses to dress herself with.
Galatians 5:22-23 lists out the characteristics of the fruit of a Godly spirit.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
Colossians 3:12-14 shows us the virtues to cloak ourselves with.
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
1 Timothy 2:9-10 teaches us what to adorn ourselves with.
I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.
Following the standards that God uses to define a beautiful spirit will yield an unfading beauty that time cannot touch.
I am not suggesting that you give up your make-up, curling-irons, and fashion magazines. Just make sure that you keep it in check with the reality of what will truly make you a lovely, attractive woman. If you want something to nip, tuck or augment – look for Spiritual attributes that you can work on.
Become the beauty that God finds worthy and I promise others will recognize it too.
As always, if you have questions, ideas or want to study further, please contact me at TheRefreshingWell@gmail.com.